Things that will keep me single for life

 Hey, this is who I am, good night.

The Trouble with Texting

A few reasons why texting is no substitute for face-to-face communication.

Lately, I've noticed more clients using text messages to discuss or argue about unresolved issues in their relationships. As someone who is all thumbs with my thumbs, I’m always amazed that people have the digital dexterity to carry on a reasonably coherent text dialogue for longer than two minutes. But personal challenges aside, texting is not the way to negotiate a relationship.

As texting becomes second nature to a generation reared on iphones, it’s worth noting that human beings were designed to connect with each other on many different levels. UCLA professor Albert Mehrabian found that 58 percent of communication is through body language, 35 percent through vocal tone, pitch, and emphasis, and a mere 7 percent through content of the message.

We all know that good communication is the cornerstone of relationship. So why attempt to resolve a disagreement using only 7 percent of your full expressive potential? Would you run a marathon with 7 percent of your physical strength, or take an important test with 7 percent of your intelligence? Would you host a holiday gathering with only 7 percent of your house cleaned?

And that’s a generous 7 percent. Consider all the annoying slips of finger that can interfere with clear communication. When the difference between “mad,” “sad,” “bad,” and “glad” is an errant thumb, wobbly finger gymnastics can be costly and confusing.

I understand that for some people, texting has become a habitual form of communications. And we all know that some habits are hard to break. But I also believe there are additional reasons why someone might initiate a delicate or difficult conversation via text. Here are a few theories:

1) To avoid revealing vulnerable emotions. No one can hear the trembling or the anger in your voice in a text.

2) To protect oneself from having to hear another person’s distress, whether it be crying, anger, or strain in their voice.

 3) To have some control over the conversation, including setting boundaries with difficult or verbose people. Sometimes this can devolve into manipulation, especially if one party refuses to talk on the phone.

4) To expend less energy. Texting requires fewer sentences than talking or emails.

Despite appearances, I am not anti-texting. Like any technology, texting has its place, especially for a quick hello, simple banter, or making plans. But as I tell my clients, it's always preferable to discuss problems face to face. And when that's not possible, our smart phones also have digital keypads.. and we have fingers.

Kim Schneiderman, L.C.S.W., is the author of Step Out of Your Story: Writing Exercises to Reframe and Transform Your Life and a psychotherapist in private practice on the Upper West Side of Manhattan. A former journalist, Ms. Schneiderman has facilitated therapeutic writing groups at the 92nd Street Y and the JCC in Manhattan. She taught master's level Psychopathology as an adjunct professor at Long Island University, and served as a guest lecturer in the launch year of NYU Silver School of Social Work's new Post-Graduate certificate program in Social Work and Spiritual Care. 

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*I'm a great tech and love technology yet I don't fit in this society any longer.

WEATHER WARNING: 2018 hurricane season to be MORE ACTIVE than devastating 2017

HURRICANE season is set to be even more devastating this year following a catastrophic hurricane season in 2017 as researchers warn major hurricanes could strike the east coast of the UK and hit the Caribbean

According to research from Colorado State University university, there is a 63 percent chance that a major hurricane – category three or higher – will hit the east coast of the US this year and a 52 percent chance that they will make landfall on the Caribbean.

The team say that is due to a lack of La Nina, where sea temperatures in the Pacific Ocean drops, this year which will allow the water to remain warm and prove a successful breeding ground for storms and hurricanes.

A statement from Colorado State University read: “We anticipate a slightly above-average probability for major hurricanes making landfall along the continental United States coastline and in the Caribbean.

“As is the case with all hurricane seasons, coastal residents are reminded that it only takes one hurricane making landfall to make it an active season for them.

Researchers believe that there could be up to 18 named storms in 2017 – there were 17 in 2017.

Scientists give hurricane names so they can track them throughout the year.

They are listed alphabetically and alternate between male and female names.

Interactive > https://tinyurl.com/y968g4vp

Where "Sys Nica" began / Nicaraguan Views

https://nicaraguanviews.blogspot.com/

A tool I'll use to move back overseas

 This is not 100% accurate as I have found out in my travels yet it is very close. I'm moving back to the beaches of Nicaragua and find it to be a reliable source of basic information.

https://www.numbeo.com/cost-of-living/

Numbeo is the world’s largest database of user contributed data about cities and countries worldwide. Numbeo provides current and timely information on world living conditions including cost of living, housing indicators, health care, traffic, crime and pollution.
4,279,488 prices in 8,332 cities entered by 345,029 contributors

Numbeo provides a tool to see, share and compare information about cost of living worldwide, by providing online software which:

• provides to a reader of a website prices for free
• uses wisdom of the crowd to get as reliable data as possible
• provides a system for systematic research on cost of living and property markets
• calculates derived indices such as cost of living index, local purchasing power, etc.
• provides a system for other systematic economical research on huge dataset with worldwide data

If you find something helpful or if you like the website, take a little time to help someone else, by contributing your local cost knowledge.

Top 4 Technology Penny Stocks to Watch

ZIXI

Zix Corp

5.27

-0.38%

GLUU

Glu Mobile Inc

5.47

+0.74%

ARTX

Arotech Corp

3.75

+5.63%

PLUG

Plug Power Inc

2.19

+1.39%

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Technology remains fertile ground for young companies to try their hand at putting new tech solutions on the market. That means investors will find plenty of penny stocks to choose from. If you want to learn more about the process of trading penny stocks, Investopedia has a day trading course.

We have selected four penny tech stocks for you to consider. These stocks were chosen based on their positions in their industries. In other words, we looked for stocks that have the potential to capture market share. All figures are current as of May 2, 2018. (See also: How to Pick Winning Penny Stocks.)

Zix Corporation (ZIXI)

Zix is an email provider. It focuses on secure messaging, marketing itself to corporate and government entities. The unique approach of encryption, coupled with avoiding downloading, makes this an attractive service.

With sales rising 65% in five years, Zix is making headway. It tends to range in and out of the penny stock category, as it rises over $5 per share on occasion. As you might expect, the company is very small, with a market cap of just under $289 million. Revenues have been increasing steadily over the past four years. With data breaches and privacy concerns drawing ever more attention to cybersecurity issues, Zix shows promise for investors who are willing to take on the risk of a penny stock. (For more, see: How to Invest in Penny Stocks.)

• Average Volume: 274,480
• Market Cap: $288.603 million
• P/E Ratio (TTM): N/A
• EPS (TTM): -$0.15

Glu Mobile Inc. (GLUU

GLUU

Glu Mobile Inc

5.47

+0.74%

 

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Glu Mobile makes games for smartphones. It has multiple titles that are gaining popularity for players who use phones or tablets. Many of the titles are based on action movies, while others are based on existing console games. Interestingly, its biggest selling title is a casual role-playing game based on the life of reality TV star Kim Kardashian.

The company has worked its way out of debt and has strong cash reserves. Revenues have been rising over the past four quarters, but operating income is negative. Glu Mobile is spending on research and development to find its next hit. The potential for this stock is based on its industry, as games continue to grow in popularity and gamers are willing to try new games even if they are not from large companies. If Glu Mobile comes up with a hit game, it will likely send the stock soaring. (See also: Glu Mobile Buys Game Company Plain Vanilla.)

• Average Volume: 1,824,440
• Market Cap: $661.988 million
• P/E Ratio (TTM): N/A
• EPS (TTM): -$0.72

Arotech Corporation (ARTX

ARTX

Arotech Corp

3.75

+5.63%

 

)

This company has combined two of the hottest trends around today: drones and virtual reality. It creates technology for the military and law enforcement, offering simulations for use-of-force training. It also sells to the security and emergency services sectors and provides weapons simulations for aircraft and missile systems.

Arotech has positioned itself as a significant provider of surveillance and attack technologies at a time when drones are gaining increased attention and artificial intelligence is being deployed. After several quarters of flat performance, revenue ticked up in the quarter that ended Sept. 30, 2017, and the company's operating income turned positive during that period. These are positive signals for Arotech, and the stock could offer room for additional growth based on the potential for the company and the sector. (For more, see: Top 6 Drone Stocks.)

• Average Volume: 119,726
• Market Cap: $86.061 million
• P/E Ratio (TTM): 22.76
• EPS (TTM): $0.14

Plug Power Inc. (PLUG

PLUG

Plug Power Inc

2.19

+1.39%

 

)

Plug Power is a player in the burgeoning alternative energy industry, focusing on the field of hydrogen fuel cell technology. The company provides fuel cell solutions to the material handling and stationary power sectors. Based in Latham, New York, Plug Power has been in existence since 1997, indicating that there is some longevity to the story despite its current status as a penny stock.

Operating income has been consistently negative for the past few years, and that trend continued in 2017. However, the stock price appears to have reached a bottom in the first few months of 2017, and it broke out in March and April on strong trading volume, with the shares doubling in value over that time frame. Although Plug Power saw its share price slide downward in November 2017 and again in early 2018, the stock could offer investors solid gains as the alternative energy industry gathers strength. (See also: Penny Stocks to Watch.)

• Average Volume: 3,778,219
• Market Cap: $427.491 million
• P/E Ratio (TTM): N/A
• EPS (TTM): -$0.60

The Bottom Line

The trouble with penny stocks is that investors have to make some guesses about the future. Very few penny stocks have a strong enough track record to indicate that they will survive and prosper. That said, the penny stocks on our list operate in significant industries and have the potential to be vital players in those industries. (See also: The Lowdown on Penny Stocks.)

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Are Paid Dating Sites Better Than Free Ones?

*My "better" dating experiences have been with overseas/foreign women for the most part, American women "tend" to be a bit spoiled. That's only my opinion based on my life experiences.
 I'm quite sure that having lived in or visited 11 countries has quite a deal to do with it.

Whoa, no more emails on this please: Yes I would consider marrying again.

To pay or not to pay: That is the question. For every dating site or app that charges close to $40 per month, such as Match, eHarmony, or JDate, there are plenty of other popular ones like OkCupid or Tinder that are free. If your goal is to get a date—or find a mate—are you better off with one type over the other?

Both kinds are popular, so you can’t go just by that. In the 2016 Consumer Reports Online Dating Survey, more than 9,600 people who had used an online dating service in the last two years were asked which one they had joined. Forty-eight percent said Match, a paid site, but PlentyOfFish (free) and eHarmony (paid) tied for second most popular, with 23 percent apiece.

But in terms of overall satisfaction, our survey found that free dating sites actually score a touch better than paid ones, probably because they're a better value. Although our survey found that no dating site or app sweeps online daters off their feet in the satisfaction department, OkCupid is rated highest overall by respondents, and Grindr, a free app for gay men, is also near the top. 

Do You Get What You Pay For?

Some experts argue that paid sites attract more serious users. “I typically recommend Match because I’ve found it gives you better quality,” says Jodi Manfredi, who writes online dating profiles professionally.

“I’ve always assumed that putting anything behind a pay wall makes it more attractive and weeds out the casual users and trolls,” agrees Joseph Lynn, a Chicago man who used eHarmony and Match as well as a few free sites. “The fact that eHarmony matched me with several women with whom I shared common interests led me to believe that I was seeing more quality matches.”

At the same time, you shouldn’t write off a site just because it’s free. Even Tinder, despite its reputation for attracting users seeking causal romance, may deserve a more open mind. 

“It's a myth that some sites are better for relationships while others are more for hookups,” says Manfredi. “There are people of different intentions on every platform; it’s more important what your intention is.”

Perhaps the key factor that determines whether you’ll like a site is not the price to join but the kind of people you find on it and how they behave and communicate.

“That’s the real issue—how happy are people with their interactions on the dating sites,” says Scott Kominers, a lecturer in economics at Harvard University. On a site like OkCupid anyone can send you a message, whereas on the free app Bumble or on Tinder or eHarmony, only people you are matched with can get in touch.  

A Better Way to Date?

Kominers thinks online daters could be well served by a service that isn’t quite free but doesn’t involve a subscription fee either. Inspired by Jiayuan.com, the largest online dating site in China, he thinks dating sites would have happier customers overall if they did away with their current pricing models and charged users per message sent.

“If sending messages had a price or you could send only a fixed number per day, people you contact online would know you had to give up something to do so, which would incentivize better behavior,” he says.

Perhaps beyond just charging for messages, sites could adjust the price according to how high quality someone's engagement seems to be. So a person who randomly sends out dozens of “hey” messages to would-be dates would have to pay a higher price to make contacts than someone who does it more selectively.

In the meantime, the bottom line is that while some users think quality does come at a price, there are benefits to free dating services as well. Online daters may be best off trying both types. Indeed, that’s what most do. Our survey suggests that 45 percent of online daters have tried multiple dating websites or apps. 

Good night

*I must be getting soft.

Answering a question publicly

*I never graduated H.S. but took my GED and attended 3 colleges for "General Liberal" studies which I dropped out of all 3 so, "No" I've never studied computers, engines, motors, cooking, boats, yachts, RC's or any of the things that I do.

 Here's how I did it > Look in the newspaper for a job that you want. (I left my birth city hell bent on never going back = Great incentive) Google the job description and add the extension, ".pdf". Download it.
 Then read the material and highlight "every" word you don't get! Click that highlight for the definition and write it down in a composition notebook. Task this for 8 hours a day just like you are working for $$$$.
 Within 3 days set up an interview and keep at the aforementioned, you'll breeze through your interview. When you get out in the field just shut up, watch, listen and learn.

 This is how I did it on my mother's and grand mother's grave.

McAfee Anti Virus has never been worth a shit and here's why

 I purchased this craptop, "Open Box" from Best Buy a couple days ago. I went through the setup routine and let the computer do its thing with updates.
McAfee came free as always and I forgot to remove it. Why? If you want to protect your computer or craptop install, "Windows Defender and Norton Antivirus",

 Here's what McAfee never recognized or removed > 

36 PUPS or, "Potentially unwanted programs".

Malwarebytes is a free download & pay later.

I advise anyone to keep it.

Download at > https://www.malwarebytes.com/mwb-download/

Whoever was playing with this computer was watching porn or downloading games.

Along with Malwarebytes, download Windows Defender and you're set.

https://www.microsoft.com/en-us/windows/comprehensive-security

Get your own web page, blog or website and begin to make money.

 Some people have great ideas yet who knows of these ideas except for friends and family? If no one else knows no one else is going to spend money or invest.
 While many invest in "other's" ideas seldom do they take the time and small financial investment to bring to fruition their own ideas.

 Realize your potential.

https://www.nikostoybox.com/web-design

Importance of Time Management

by Remez Sasson

What is time management?
It is a set of principles, practices, skills, tools and systems that help you use your time to accomplish what you want.

Why is time management important?

Time management is important for your personal life and career success. It teaches you how to manage your time effectively and make the most of it.

Here are a few of the reasons why it is so important, and how it can help you use and manage your time more advantageously:

1. Time is a special resource that you cannot store or save for later use. Everyone has the exact same amount of time each day. Time not well used cannot be retrieved.

2. Most people, feel like they have too much to do and not enough time. They blame lack of time for their poor finances, stress, bad relationships, and for not exercising their body.

Wise time management can help you find the time for what you desire, and for what you need to do.

3. You need time to get what you want out of life. If you wait for extra time to appear, you might lose the game of life. Through right time management, you can “create” the time you need, and not just wait for it to come. By planning your time wisely, you will have more time to do more things.

4. Time management will help you set up your priorities.

5. Time is limited to 24 hours a day, so plan your life wisely.

6. Time management helps you make conscious choices, so you can spend more of your time doing things that are important and valuable to you.

7. You can learn to find the time for the things that are important to you. Even a small amount of time once a day, or even once a week, will take you closer to your goals, and you will be surprised at the progress you make.

8. You become more productive using improved time management skills and tools, and can accomplish more with less effort and time. Time management can help you reduce wasted time and energy, help you become more creative and productive, and enable you to do the right thing at the right time. This will of course lead to more balance and fulfillment in your life.

9. Life today presents so many distractions, and therefore, it is very easy to lose time on unimportant activities. Ask yourself, is watching this or that TV program, reading this or that gossip or participating in a certain activity is going to add anything to your life. Is the time spent on a particular activity well spent, or is just a waste of time and energy?

10. Life puts in front of everyone so many choices each day, and the question is, do you follow what appears on your way, or do you consciously choose what you want to do? Do you allow external distractions to deter you from your goal, or do you use willpower and self discipline to walk toward your goal in a straight line, without wasting time and energy?

11. A certain degree of detachment and inner peace are useful in managing your time effectively. They help you avoid spending too much emotional and mental energy on what people say and think about you. They help you stay calm, despite distractions or difficulties, and this saves you a lot of time and energy, which you can spend on better and more rewarding activities.

There are many things you can do and tools to use to manage your time effectively. There is a lot of time wasted each day, which can be put to better uses. There are changes you can make, which will effectively increase the time you have at your disposal every day.

Thinking, planning, finding out how others manage their time, and reading books and articles on time management, will develop these skills and give you good ideas.

Among the many changes that you can make to manage your time, there is one that is important and easily available, and that is getting up early in the morning. Give up watching TV late at night and go to sleep a little earlier than usual. It will then be easier to wake up earlier.

Even waking up only 15 minutes earlier would be great. It is a time of quietude, before everyone else wakes up, which you can devote to reading, meditating, exercising, or planning your day.

To get rid of the feeling that you have much to do and not enough time, try to feel and to think, as if you have all the time in the world.

This kind of thinking would enable you to focus on what you are doing, without stress and strain.

Always plan your time well and don’t waste it on useless matters. Be careful not to procrastinate, and do everything in the best way you can, with focus and attention.

Don’t have enough time in your day? Do you want to learn how to manage your time? Learning about time management can help you manage your time more efficiently.

Developing some willpower and self-discipline will make it much easier to be in control of your time.