Saturday, January 9, 2016
Psychology of Online Virtual Relationships:
Or, My Best Friend's Name is firstname.lastname@example.org
Instructions for this Report
The first section discusses the depth of emotions that can be expressed. Generally, there is a perception that deep, emotional relationships cannot exist via an online interaction and that online relationships are restricted by ideas that can be typed, but not expressed otherwise.
The author feels that this notion of a lack of emotional depth in an online relationships is not necessarily true for everyone. He says that with some of his own online relationships, he feels the kind of warmth and caring that he would normally expect from a "real" relationship.
I agree that sometimes, the most fulfilling friendships aren't the face to face kind. I had an unusual experience where I got to see what one of my friendships is like in the online world. I've got a friend, Kevin, whom I knew from high school. We weren't really tight as friends, but we got along really well. Lately, I started emailing him, telling him my guy problems. It's amazing how our friendship has deepened in the last few weeks. We really opened up to each other- he's now telling me his own personal problems. When we actually do see each other, it's like we were always close friends. It all would not have been possible had I not started this online aspect of our friendship.
He also addresses the issue of adopting a false online identity and why he believes they are healthy. Within us, he says are a variety of aspects that ordinarily are not expressed. By adopting online identities that contradict with our true gender, age, and so on, we are just letting those other aspects out.
In addition, there also seems to be a system online which gives more favor to females. Females are more likely to be helped out, or felt sorry for, or taken in and protected than are males. This may only serve to encourage men to adopt female online identities.
Later in the piece, the topic shifts to the importance of proximity in relationships. The author felt that physical closeness to the person they were relating to was very important. It seems that being there, where the person can be seen, touched, and observed, conveys that the person is more genuine, sincere, and adds a physical dimension to one otherwise restricted to words on a screen.
I'm okay with the idea of inventing a false identity for online relationships. What you see isn't always what you get, and in an arena where it is so easy to create an identity, the Internet will be filled with people pretending to be someone else. It's a good way of putting yourself at a distance from the relationship, which gives a person a sense of control over the relationship.
The next topic in this issue is of expectations. In order to totally understand a situation, you must first have an idea of what is expected of the situation. These expectations need to be realistic and based on something real.
The example of the two women who would go to bars and tell made-up stories about themselves is a good example. Other people who would hear their stories had the expectation that the women were telling them the truth. This is a realistic expectation, as people don't usually believe that they are being misled in these situations.
This discussion of expectations is extended into the topic of chat rooms which use avatars. Initially, the author felt that his online persona was a fictional character, someone who ceased to exist when the computer was turned off. He quickly realized, though, that others did not always share his approach to the online experience when another person fell in love with his online persona. The other person expected that his personality and approach to the online environment was what he presented and similar to her own, that he took it as seriously as she did.
I would never expect that what I'm being told is the truth. Maybe some people are hurt by the idea that someone who doesn't know them would lie to them, but not me. I might lie about a few things myself. Of course, when an online relationship progresses to the point that you find yourself falling in love, I think the parties involved should take a step back and think, "What do I really know about this person?" If the answer is nothing, then I think that the relationship should not enter reality and should stay virtual.
This leads to the problem of what really lies behind online identities. We all have heard many stories where a man will leave his wife and family for an online love, only to discover that she is really very different from what she led him to believe. Tied up in these scenarios are issues of honesty, acceptance, deceit, and feelings of betrayal. Often, reality disappoints fantasy.
The following section is statistics about the growth and usage of the Internet. What they add up to is that the number of people getting online is increasing every year and the growth is expected to rise. Also, as time goes by, "nettiquette" will be widespread, and phenomena such as flaming and "inappropriate" romance s will decrease.
email@example.com wrote that people with different expectations of online relationships will behave in ways that show their differing expectations. For example, those who prefer to keep virtual relationships in the fantasy world may just frequent MOOs or MUDs, while those who want to meet someone in real life may visit sites specifically designed to get people together.
Still, he wrote, common sense is important when it comes to online relationships. It's important that people remember that people they meet online aren't always sincere and genuine. An indicator to the kind of person you're dealing with could be where you met them. If the environment makes you suspicious or wary of them, it's a good idea to pay attention to that sense of caution. Of course, not everyone has bad intentions, but personal safety should be a prime consideration when forging online relationships.
He also believes that as the younger generations gets online, they will become more savvy about online relationships and they won't have the kinds of problems that we are experiencing. He believes that they will be able to discern the good people (with good intentions) from those who have bad intentions.
I agree. The next generation will learn a lot from our mistakes, or at least I hope they will.
Among the G7 responses, it seemed that it was agreed that while virtual relationships are acceptable and even cool, they should not progress past a certain point. Most prefer to keep online relationships online, for a variety of reasons. Perhaps the whole idea is just more entertaining if it is kept online, or maybe because the uncertainty of what the person is really like. Most were also reluctant to invest too much emotional commitment to virtual relationships.
The next topic is Internet dependency. People have gotten so involved in their online life that it causes them a great deal of distress when an online relationship experiences a falling out, or if the online acquaintance does not participate in online activities anymore. Many of these people experience along with their online dependency, such as bipolar disorder, and OCD.
The last sections detailed how personal some online relationships became for some users. One guy had a friend who met his girlfriend online. Another experienced a great spiritual connection with a group of people online. Others wrestled with the Asian ideas of shame and embarrassment, and why their fears of looking foolish prevented them from being themselves online.
In my research, I found and was able to participate in only chat rooms. This is what I found.
People log in to different chat rooms, each different in its topic of discussion. Some talk about sports, others, music, and so on. They give themselves a name. I used my middle name. As soon as I joined in the General chat room, I was bombarded with questions as to what I looked like, my age, where I was from, what kinds of things I liked, etc. If my likes corresponded with someone else's, we talked about those things.
People in that chat room I visited were very friendly. I felt some of their questions were a bit nosy, and there were some obnoxious people who made suggestive remarks, but aside from that, there were no negatives about this experience. I think people who go to chat rooms just like talking to and meeting new people. Maybe they're expanding their horizons by meeting people online, or maybe they just prefer to meet people in this kind of environment, rather than real life. And when they find someone who has things in common with them, it just gives them incentive to come back again. I started to feel as though this approach to meeting people had a few good benefits. In what other situation can you gracefully exit quickly if you don't like the people there? I also liked that you could invent yourself to others, and that you weren't really judged based on a physical appearance.
I see the future of human online relationships as a microcosm of society today. Online, people with similar interests and philosophies gather, and by discussion, or other forms of communication, they basically further their interests and philosophies. They may extend that to keep in touch regularly, or decide to meet face to face. In enough people are involved, they may even form virtual communities. But on the downside, there are still the same weirdos and nutties that haunt the offline world. I see the people online as a slice of the general population, diverse as ever. It's this diversity that makes the Internet so interesting.
I do think, though, that some people had expectations that the Internet could be a place where the negatives of society (racism, porn, etc.) could be barred from entering. To me, this is an unrealistic expectation. With access to the web as free as it is, and as easy as it is to put up web pages of one's own, there is no way we can totally filter the contents of the web. It would only be possible if there were some form of control over the web. But to many people, this smells of censorship, and it makes the web less appealing. The web could be sanitized, but at the expense of people's interest in it. It is not a worthwhile trade.
For future generations, I advise that expectations of what you find on the web be kept in check. Don't enter virtual relationships unless you're sure its what you want. This advice applies to platonic as well as romantic relationships. Don't be completely naive to the online world. But on the flip side, it's a good idea to forge online relationships with optimism. To make this a little simpler, I guess you can say that virtual relationships should be handled the way you would a real world relationship: careful of weird people, but still open to the experience.
***Personal comment, "You might just be out to lunch"?
Friday, January 8, 2016
We all know people who just seem to get things done; but have you ever noticed that productive people tend to be happier and more well-rounded too?
The skills that achievers use to help them complete tasks, hit deadlines, and finish projects are the same skills that can help you become a happier, more balanced individual in every part of your life.
Everyone should aspire to build a productive mindset. Here are eight tips to improve both your productivity and your life:
If you focus too long on a problem, it can really start to bog you down. You can end up going around in circles, feeling more and more frustrated and worried about the pickle you’re in, rather than doing anything to fix what’s wrong. Productive individuals take one good look at the problem and then immediately move on to search for solutions. Focusing on finding answers helps you feel more in control and gets you out of the problem more quickly. Finding solutions helps you accomplish things, and the sense of pride you get from that can make you feel happier too.
Put Down Boundaries
If you’re always saying ‘yes’ to people or going out of your way to accommodate others while neglecting your own needs and goals, you’re unlikely to meet your own targets, and you’re likely to end up feeling resentful and bitter. Learning to say ‘no’ to things that don’t serve you frees up your own time and promotes a feeling of self-respect. There’s nothing wrong with helping others or giving your time and attention to them, but you must only do so when it doesn’t cross your own boundaries or eat into what you need to do. Choose what and who you say ‘yes’ to carefully at home and at work.
Have a Healthy Routine
Some of the most productive people in the world swear by similar morning routines. Rising early to have an exercise session, a protein-rich breakfast, and a spot of meditation feature in many particularly productive people’s mornings from big business owners to presidents. Having a good start to the day gives you all sorts of benefits, including a clearer head, a healthier body, a better mood, and more focus.
Streamline your Life
You might marvel at how much productive people seem to get done in a day, but what you’ll usually find is that they’ve set things up in a way that makes it easier for them to succeed. Whether it’s putting automated systems in place, delegating, or just having all the necessary tools ready to hand, productive people have a head-start because they’ve simplified and streamlined their processes. If you invest a little time in decluttering, preparing, and organising, you’ll not only save yourself time in the long-run, but you’ll save yourself stress and headaches. And you’ll have much more time to do the things you really value later on.
Look at the Bigger Picture
Productive people don’t get distracted because they’ve always got the bigger picture in mind. They don’t think about a report as a piece of administration or see a spreadsheet as a list of numbers ‒- instead they view these things as necessary steps to achieve their goals. And beyond that, they’ll know why this particular goal is of value to them and how it will enhance their life overall. Whether it’s to make money, to gain security, or to revolutionise the world, productive people see tasks as vital cogs in the greater machinery of their project and their life. Whenever you need to do anything important, bear in mind how good it will make you feel to do it or how it will enhance your well-being. Focusing on these positive things allows you to stay motivated and happy at home and at work.
Be Positive About Yourself
People who don’t get things done are often waylaid by their own lack of self-belief. If you don’t think you’re capable of achieving anything, why even try? Productive people put their best foot forward and don’t allow negative self-talk to steer them away from their goals. Not only does a healthy sense of self-efficacy help you focus and achieve more, but respecting your unique skills, qualities and strengths will make you feel happier too. It’s really a self-fulfilling prophecy — if you pep talk yourself, you’ll probably find that you’ve got much more to cheer about because you’re more likely to perform better when you have a positive focus.
Know Nothing Has to Be Perfect
If you tried to be perfect in everything you did, you’d never ever get anything done. Perfection is an impossible marker, and trying to live up to it just leaves you feeling frustrated and depressed. Productive people focus on doing their very best, but don’t allow a few flaws to delay their dreams or stop their progress. Not only does letting go of perfectionism allow you to get more done, it also takes the pressure off you, letting you enjoy what you are doing and have more fun with it.
If you really thought about what’s precious in life, you’d realise that time is one of the most valuable commodities — it’s one that we only get a certain amount of, and once it’s gone, we can’t get it back. Productive people know the value of time and have a healthy respect for it, which is partly why they are able to stay so focused. You’d find it far less tempting to play Candy Crush if you knew it was your last day on Earth. Respect the time that you have in the world and it’ll be easier to live your life to the fullest, cherishing and enjoying every moment.
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Thursday, January 7, 2016
Cambodian “ordinary” visa. For anyone who is considering staying in Cambodia for an extended period of time, the ordinary visa (E class) is the best option. This visa used to be called the business visa but is now called the normal or ordinary visa. It is also valid for 30 days and costs $35. The difference between the ordinary visa and the tourist visa is that the ordinary one can be extended indefinitely. Be aware that although the “ordinary” visa is often called a “business visa,” it does not confer the right to work in Cambodia. In order to be legally employed, you will need a Cambodia work permit.
Malaria:Â Prophylaxis is recommended for all areas except Phnom Penh and around Lake Tonle Sap. Lariam (mefloquine), Malarone (atovaquone/proguanil), or doxycycline are the recommended drugs, except for the western provinces of Preah Vihear, Siemreap, Oddar, Meanchey, Banteay Meanchey, Battambang, Pailin, Koh Kong, and Pursat, where mefloquine should not be used because of the presence of mefloquine-resistant malaria in the areas near the Thai border.
|Hepatitis A||Recommended for all travelers|
|Typhoid||Recommended for all travelers|
|Yellow fever||Required for all travelers greater than one year of age arriving from a yellow-fever-infected area in Africa or the Americas and for travelers who have been in transit more than 12 hours in an airport located in a country with risk of yellow fever transmission. Not recommended otherwise.|
|Japanese encephalitis||For travelers who may spend a month or more in rural areas and for short-term travelers who may spend substantial time outdoors in rural areas, especially after dusk|
|Hepatitis B||Recommended for all travelers|
|Rabies||For travelers spending a lot of time outdoors, or at high risk for animal bites, or involved in any activities that might bring them into direct contact with bats|
|Measles, mumps, rubella (MMR)||Two doses recommended for all travelers born after 1956, if not previously given|
|Tetanus-diphtheria||Revaccination recommended every 10 years|
7 best places to visit in Cambodia
Tired of Thailand? Give Cambodia a go. Here are seven amazing places you've got to visit.
Tired of Thailand? Want to experience a slice of ancient Southeast Asia? Give Cambodia a go.
It may not have the same Full Moon party reputation of its neighbour, nor the historical notoriety of next-door Vietnam. But don't let that put you off exploring this beautiful country, full of ancient temples and stunning landscapes - and there's plenty of cheap beer!
Having brought us the best of Vietnam, our roving reporter Cat McGloin shares her seven must-see places in Cambodia:
1. Phnom Penh
Cambodia's capital teems with tuk-tuk drivers and street food vendors. Weave through the city, spotting roadside pagodas nestled amongst grand French colonial houses. Why not try a local delicacy, deep fried tarantula? When cocktail hour calls, there's no better place to catch a sundowner and appreciate some colonial grandeur than at the Foreign Correspondence Club on the bank on the Mekong River that runs through the city.
2. The Killing Fields
Just outside Phnom Penh lies one of the largest mass graves sites in Cambodia, where it is estimated over one million Cambodians were executed during the Khmer Rouge regime. The scale of the site, coupled with the tales told over your audio guide, is deeply moving and provides real insight in to the country's violent past, as well as the regime's enduring legacy. You can couple your visit here with a trip to Tuol Sleng Genocide Museum by bargaining with a tuk-tuk driver.
Nightlife Phnom Penh
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Compare cost of living.
|Restaurants||[ Edit ]||[ Edit ]|
|Meal, Inexpensive Restaurant||12.00 $||2.50 $||-79.17 %|
|Meal for 2 People, Mid-range Restaurant, Three-course||50.00 $||16.00 $||-68.00 %|
|McMeal at McDonalds (or Equivalent Combo Meal)||7.00 $||4.00 $||-42.86 %|
|Domestic Beer (0.5 liter draught)||4.00 $||1.00 $||-75.00 %|
|Imported Beer (0.33 liter bottle)||5.00 $||2.00 $||-60.00 %|
|Cappuccino (regular)||3.77 $||1.97 $||-47.70 %|
|Coke/Pepsi (0.33 liter bottle)||1.68 $||0.67 $||-60.51 %|
|Water (0.33 liter bottle)||1.35 $||0.38 $||-71.62 %|
|Markets||[ Edit ]||[ Edit ]|
|Milk (regular), (1 liter)||0.95 $||2.14 $||+125.98 %|
|Loaf of Fresh White Bread (500g)||2.54 $||1.29 $||-49.30 %|
|Rice (white), (1kg)||3.47 $||0.82 $||-76.24 %|
|Eggs (12)||2.69 $||1.48 $||-44.86 %|
|Local Cheese (1kg)||10.39 $||15.50 $||+49.13 %|
|Chicken Breasts (Boneless, Skinless), (1kg)||8.58 $||5.27 $||-38.60 %|
|Beef Round (1kg) (or Equivalent Back Leg Red Meat)||11.96 $||9.35 $||-21.83 %|
|Apples (1kg)||4.17 $||3.54 $||-15.21 %|
|Banana (1kg)||1.68 $||0.89 $||-47.18 %|
|Oranges (1kg)||4.05 $||3.05 $||-24.65 %|
|Tomato (1kg)||3.97 $||1.21 $||-69.55 %|
|Potato (1kg)||2.61 $||1.59 $||-38.88 %|
|Onion (1kg)||2.68 $||1.04 $||-61.14 %|
|Lettuce (1 head)||1.59 $||0.84 $||-47.19 %|
|Water (1.5 liter bottle)||1.76 $||0.65 $||-63.07 %|
|Bottle of Wine (Mid-Range)||12.00 $||8.00 $||-33.33 %|
|Domestic Beer (0.5 liter bottle)||1.79 $||0.85 $||-52.59 %|
|Imported Beer (0.33 liter bottle)||2.36 $||1.69 $||-28.61 %|
|Pack of Cigarettes (Marlboro)||6.41 $||1.25 $||-80.50 %|
|Transportation||[ Edit ]||[ Edit ]|
|One-way Ticket (Local Transport)||2.25 $||1.00 $||-55.56 %|
|Monthly Pass (Regular Price)||70.00 $||27.35 $||-60.93 %|
|Taxi Start (Normal Tariff)||3.00 $||1.12 $||-62.50 %|
|Taxi 1km (Normal Tariff)||1.55 $||0.72 $||-53.65 %|
|Taxi 1hour Waiting (Normal Tariff)||30.00 $||2.00 $||-93.33 %|
|Gasoline (1 liter)||0.66 $||1.04 $||+58.47 %|
|Volkswagen Golf 1.4 90 KW Trendline (Or Equivalent New Car)||21,092.50 $||29,846.89 $||+41.50 %|
|Utilities (Monthly)||[ Edit ]||[ Edit ]|
|Basic (Electricity, Heating, Water, Garbage) for 85m2 Apartment||148.60 $||71.48 $||-51.90 %|
|1 min. of Prepaid Mobile Tariff Local (No Discounts or Plans)||0.11 $||0.07 $||-39.26 %|
|Internet (10 Mbps, Unlimited Data, Cable/ADSL)||49.38 $||42.88 $||-13.16 %|
|Sports And Leisure||[ Edit ]||[ Edit ]|
|Fitness Club, Monthly Fee for 1 Adult||37.93 $||48.48 $||+27.82 %|
|Tennis Court Rent (1 Hour on Weekend)||17.54 $||11.43 $||-34.83 %|
|Cinema, International Release, 1 Seat||11.00 $||4.00 $||-63.64 %|
|Clothing And Shoes||[ Edit ]||[ Edit ]|
|1 Pair of Jeans (Levis 501 Or Similar)||41.76 $||17.89 $||-57.16 %|
|1 Summer Dress in a Chain Store (Zara, H&M, ...)||35.40 $||19.50 $||-44.92 %|
|1 Pair of Nike Running Shoes (Mid-Range)||75.00 $||42.22 $||-43.70 %|
|1 Pair of Men Leather Business Shoes||90.14 $||31.55 $||-65.00 %|
|Rent Per Month||[ Edit ]||[ Edit ]|
|Apartment (1 bedroom) in City Centre||1,150.07 $||318.85 $||-72.28 %|
|Apartment (1 bedroom) Outside of Centre||873.64 $||182.87 $||-79.07 %|
|Apartment (3 bedrooms) in City Centre||1,910.91 $||823.12 $||-56.93 %|
|Apartment (3 bedrooms) Outside of Centre||1,454.53 $||430.58 $||-70.40 %|
|Buy Apartment Price||[ Edit ]||[ Edit ]|
|Price per Square Meter to Buy Apartment in City Centre||2,199.42 $||1,292.75 $||-41.22 %|
|Price per Square Meter to Buy Apartment Outside of Centre||1,479.64 $||750.36 $||-49.29 %|
|Salaries And Financing||[ Edit ]||[ Edit ]|
|Average Monthly Disposable Salary (After Tax)||2,716.70 $||171.47 $||-93.69 %|
|Mortgage Interest Rate in Percentages (%), Yearly||4.10||9.62||+134.93 %|
|Last update:||January, 2016||January, 2016|
|Data from past:||18 months||18 months|
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